Let’s talk about something that doesn’t always make it into casual conversations but definitely deserves a spotlight: condoms. Whether you’re considering them for family planning, health reasons, or simply because you want a little extra peace of mind, condoms are a versatile and valuable option in marriage.
Types of Condoms at a Glance
We’ve compiled this easy-to-read chart with all the need-to-know info about external and internal condoms. Take a peek:
Let’s Break It Down
Here are a few highlights from our chart, in case you’re curious about what sets each type apart:
Latex Condoms:The go-to option! They’re affordable, effective, and biodegradable. Just keep them away from oil-based lubricants and be mindful of allergies.
Non-Latex Condoms:Perfect for anyone with a latex allergy. They’re made from materials like polyurethane or polyisoprene and offer great sensitivity, though they can be a bit pricier.
Lambskin Condoms:A natural option with a luxurious feel, but a heads-up—they don’t protect against STIs. Great for pregnancy prevention but not ideal for other health concerns.
Textured Condoms:Think ribbed or dotted for added fun. These are designed to spice things up, but as with all things, communication is key to making sure both partners are on board.
Flavored Condoms:Mostly for oral use, these add a little sweetness to your intimacy. Just avoid using them vaginally, as the added sugars can throw off pH balance.
Internal Condoms:These nifty little inventions can be inserted into the vagina and provide excellent protection while empowering the receptive partner. They can be inserted hours in advance, so there’s no interruption when things heat up!
How to Choose the Right Condom
So, how do you decide which one is right for you? Here are some quick tips:
Allergies: If you or your spouse are allergic to latex, non-latex or nitrile options are your best bet.
Purpose: Need STI protection? Stick with latex, polyurethane, or nitrile condoms.
Preferences: Some couples swear by textures or ultra-thin designs for added comfort.
Budget: Lambskin and non-latex options can cost more, so consider your priorities.
Size: Most condom companies will have a size chart that you can measure yourself to see which size will fit best.
Condom Myths—Busted!
“Condoms ruin the mood.” Not if you have a sense of humor and a little practice! Plus, internal condoms can be inserted in advance for spontaneity.
“They’re only for casual relationships.” Nope. Condoms can be a thoughtful choice in any marriage for reasons like health, family planning, or peace of mind.
“They’re 100% effective.” Close, but not quite. Condoms are 98% effective with perfect use, but that drops to about 87% with typical use (thanks to human error). Learn to use them properly to maximize protection.
First Time Users
If you're planning to use a condom for the first time, here are some tips and steps to make sure everything goes smoothly:
Choose the Right Condom
Size Matters: As mentioned earlier, condoms come in various sizes. Ensure a proper fit—not too tight, not too loose—for effective protection and comfort.
Material Check: Most condoms are latex, but if you or your spouse has a latex allergy, look for alternatives like polyurethane or polyisoprene.
Opening the Package
Be Gentle: Use your fingers to tear the wrapper carefully at the serrated edge. Avoid using teeth or sharp objects that might tear the condom.
Check the Expiry Date: Always check the expiry date to ensure the condom is safe to use.
Putting It On
Right Before Intercourse: Put the condom on when the penis is erect and before any genital contact.
Correct Direction: Ensure the roll is on the outside. If it seems like you have to unroll it to put it on, flip it the other way.
Leave Space: Pinch the tip of the condom to leave a small space for semen collection. This helps prevent breaks.
Rolling It Down
Slow and Steady: Hold the tip (with the space) and unroll the condom all the way down the shaft of the penis. If it won't unroll, it might be on backward.
Smooth Out Air Bubbles: These can cause breakage. Smooth out any air gently as you roll down the condom.
During Intercourse
Stay Comfortable: If the condom feels tight or uncomfortable, it might be too small. If it slips during intercourse, it’s probably too large.
Lubrication Helps: Use a water-based or silicone-based lubricant on the outside of the condom to reduce friction and increase pleasure.
After Intercourse
Hold Onto the Base: When withdrawing, hold the condom at the base of the penis to prevent it from slipping off.
Dispose Properly: Wrap it in tissue and dispose of it in a trash can. Do not flush condoms as they can clog plumbing.
How NOT to Use a Condom
Avoid Water: Do not use condoms in water (e.g., showers, hot tubs). Water can wash away lubrication and increase the risk of slipping or breaking.
No Reuse: Never reuse a condom. Each condom is designed for single use.
Don't Double Up: Using two condoms at once, often called "double-bagging," actually increases the chances of both tearing due to friction between them.
Steer Clear of Oil-Based Lubricants: If using latex condoms, avoid oil-based lubricants like petroleum jelly, baby oil, or coconut oil, as they can degrade latex and lead to breakage.
** this info was taken directly out of our Wedding Night Guide. If you are about to be married, this is just a small portion of our 60+ page guide to help you navigate the special night!
Conclusion
There you have it—a complete guide to understanding, choosing, and using condoms in your marriage. Whether you’re just exploring this option for the first time or you’ve been longtime fans, the most important takeaway is this: every step you take to communicate, learn, and grow together strengthens your marriage.
Remember, condoms aren’t just about protection or practicality—they’re about being intentional in your relationship. They’re a tool that allows you to steward your health, plan your family, and prioritize your connection in a way that works for both of you. And let’s not forget, every choice we make in marriage is an opportunity to honor God and love each other well.
So, what do you think? Ready to tackle this topic with your spouse? Start the conversation, pray about it, and see where it leads. And as always, we’re here cheering you on every step of the way. In fact, we even have an episode on the podcast where we chat all about this stuff! Go take a listen here.
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